Comments on: Getting Married Today

By: Rebecca Bradley

Rebecca Bradley — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 16:15:21 +0000

Dear Chris and Justin,
I graduated from high school with Justin and at that time I did not know what path my life would take. Now I do, after going through and agonzing 18 years of an abusive marriage with my ex-husband, I have now found my soul mate, Rebecca. Yes her name is Rebecca too, imagine that. I never knew what love was until I found her and she told me the truth about how she felt about me so many years ago. We were best friends in high school and in the same home room all three years. I told her stories about how I pictured my future, you know the white picket fence with the perfect little family. So in her mind she felt there was never a chance for us to be together. So after graduation she left without saying goodbye. I cried for 2 months not knowing why she would leave me and not say goodbye. She told me that she looked for me for 18 years but did not know how to find me. I found her on MySpace. We talked and she told me the truth and I gave in to what I really knew all along that I wanted to be with a woman. The whole time that I was with my ex, I knew that there was always something missing and I never could quite figure it out, however now I know. So we talked and decided that we would give it a try and see if it would work. Well, the rest is history. We have been together since March 6, 2006. Needless to say I am happier than I have ever been except for the fact that because of the “religous” beliefs of others, I lost custody of my kids to my abusive ex husband. Sometimes it is hard and I wonder if I made the right decisons, but in my heart I know that Rebecca (Becca) is my soulmate. I dont think that God lets things happen by accident and when I found her, 3 days after that the person whose page I found her on was totally deleted from MySpace. To me that is devine intervention! On November 24, 2007 Becca and I got married and said our vows at Wrightsville Beach and that was the happiest day of my life. I only wish that my children could have been there with me to enjoy the day. The happiest life for me would be the woman that I love and my children and me all living together as one family. I know that this may never happen, but I do thank God everyday that he brought Becca back into my life. She has been my rock and my lifesaver and she rescued me from what I thought was an impossible situation. I wear my wedding ring proudly and when someone asks me if I’m married I say yes with a smile on my face! I just wish we could have all the benefits that other married couples do. That would be my biggest wish and make all my dreams come true! Thank you for sharing and I wish you and Justin all the happiness in the world!

By: Mum

Mum — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 00:22:46 +0000

Chris,

I would like to welcome you to my family. I feel you and Justin are a good match and I know you both will be happy. I always wanted two sons and now I have them!!! I will tell you what I told Justin many years ago, “I love you and always will and will always be here for you no matter what.” You and Justin have something special which I have never found and that’s each other. It has not been my fate to find someone as loving, kind, giving and understanding as my son. Cherish him. I am proud and thank God for his gift, Justin.

Always and forever,
Mum

By: Dianne Belen

Dianne Belen — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 06:52:27 +0000

Congratulations. I’m happy for you and Justin. I miss you, I wish you get assigned here in the Philippines again.

By: Holly Roxanne Cline Laws

Holly Roxanne Cline Laws — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 14:22:11 +0000

Congratlutations, From Your Cousin. You said you would tell me if you and Justin were going to get married.

By: Dee M.

Dee M. — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 15:30:50 +0000

Hi Chris,

Congratulations to you and Justin on your committment to one another. I feel the same way about gay marriage as you do. I wish there was equality for all couples. I’ve always been an ally for the gay community and I have known many great and amazing gay couples. I live in CA and many same-sex couples rejoiced when CA was granted gay marraige rights. I hope that more states will follow in these footsteps and embrace marriage rights for all people.

I’m glad to hear that your parents were so accepting of your and Justin’s marriage and committment. Best wishes to you both on many wonderful, wonderful years together.

~Dee

By: 19may80

19may80 — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 15:21:14 +0000

I came across your post while searching through posts tagged with ‘family’ on wordpress, and was moved by your experience.

Finding a life partner who understands and accepts you as well as your history (everything that has gone before to shape who you are) is a rare and beautiful thing.

Congratulations – I wish you the best of luck for your future

-Natasha

By: Brooks

Brooks — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 00:31:26 +0000

You’ve been on my mind a lot the past few weeks and this blog tells me why. Congratulations! I’m so excited for you two! You’ve continued to be in my thoughts and prayers for months. That will certainly continue as this story unfolds for the two of you. May your tomorrows be brighter than your yesterdays and your yesterdays full of joyful memories created together.

All the best,
Brooks

By: Nick Servino

Nick Servino — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 00:28:49 +0000

Hello Chris,

It’s been a while since i heard from you, and it’s quite surprising to hear such great news about you and justin. Honestly, i’m also a bit not comfortable with gay marriages (you know me, the ignorant nick that i am), but knowing fully that this is what you guys wanted and is your (by far) the greatest expression of your love for each other, i cannot help but be teary-eyed on your union. Love is love no matter how you manifest it, and committing to that love is more powerful than any scorn that you can get from anybody.

Your birthday is coming up soon (as well as mine). I do hope to catch you guys again here in the Philippines. I travel a lot with my current job but hopefully when you do plan to come here, we can celebrate our friendship!

Cheers to the newlyweds!

By: April L

April L — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 23:31:52 +0000

Chris,
I can not express to you how happy I am for you and Justin! (Kind of ironic that you choose “Independence Day” to get married. Haha)
I feel so lucky to have gotten to know the two of you so well during the home buying process. Reading your blog I am happy that you didn’t think that I might have the same views as your brother.
Some of my BESTEST (that is an “April” kind of word ) friends are gay and it hurts me so, to know that they can not have the love like what I share with my husband, recognized by our country! THAT is what is sinful! God has a plan for ALL of us! He is the one that made you. He made you a loving, good hearted individual that has found his soulmate. I wish you both ALL the best. After 14 years of marriage myself I want to gove you some advise…”Lean on each other in the hard times, celebrate with each other in the good times and most of all remain best friends forever!”
Love,
April

By: Andy J

Andy J — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:02:20 +0000

Chris,

I’m so delighted hat your parents took it so positively. I know that was hard for them, but it’s such proof how much they love you (and I imagine are very proud of you in spite of the box their religion has created).

As is usually the case with people with loving hearts, once they enter a relationship with someone afflicted by a label, the stereotypes and judgments fall away. You guys just made it easier ’cause your so darn great.

If B grows up to be as great as either of you guys I’ll be a very proud father.